You're Not Alone: Why Women Crave Real Connection with Amber Zaricor

In this episode, Jill sits down with Amber Zaricor to discuss burnout, self-care, and the power of authentic connection among women. Amber shares the inspiration behind the Fill Your Cup Conference and the importance of mindset shifts, pausing, and community support. Together, they explore how vulnerability and shared experiences create space for healing, growth, and deeper relationships.

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Jill O'Boyle (00:02.29)
Well, hello friends and welcome back to another episode of Your Life, Your Story, Rise Up. I'm your host, Jill O'Boyle, and thank you so much for being here. If you are new, welcome. If you have been a long time follower, I am so appreciative of you. I know that you have so many choices. We are overloaded with choices, so the fact that you come back and listen truly means a lot to me. So today,

I wanna talk about, have you ever met someone for like the first time and you just like can't stop smiling like the entire conversation? Like the more that you talk, the more you're like thinking like, why have I not met this person? Like what's going on here, right? Well, that's exactly how I felt when I met our guest Amber. And so you guys are gonna have a chance to meet her very, very soon.

But from the moment that we connected, was clear we had just so much in common. And then I realized she grew up in Coldwater, Ohio, just a stone's throw away from St. Mary's, Ohio. And I was like, okay, this now makes complete sense. But she now resides in Nashville, Tennessee. I'm currently here in Indianapolis, Indiana. But somehow our paths crossed.

and I am so happy that they did. And so let me tell you a little bit more about Amber. Amber is someone who lives and leads with her whole heart, whether she's hosting a cozy wine night at her home or guiding her team at Cooper Heart Creative, or just pouring into women with her conference, Fill Your Cup conference. Everything she does is infused with intention, warmth, and deep connection.

So she is a mama, a dreamer, a storyteller, and a woman who knows what it feels like to chase big dreams while navigating burnout. And most importantly, how to rebuild from that place with purpose. So I'm convinced if you landed here today, it is by no accident. So stick around, meet your two new best friends. If we haven't met Amber and Jill, you are welcome for meeting us.

Jill O'Boyle (02:14.971)
Grab a cup of coffee cozy up, because I think this conversation is going to be really, really good. All right, Amber, welcome to the show.

Amber Zaricor (02:23.234)
Thank you so much for having me. What an intro, man. Love it.

Jill O'Boyle (02:24.935)
I love our connection. I'm like, my goodness. Just like I said, when we met, I'm like, wow, how have I not met you? Your energy is super contagious. So I'm excited, I'm excited. So let's start, let's just start with the heart of it all. Let's talk about, honestly, this is what brought us together, right? I think I saw your Fill Your Cup conference.

Amber Zaricor (02:42.958)
Thank you.

Jill O'Boyle (02:53.939)
And it was one of those where I'm like, why am I not there? Why am I not at this conference? So I want to know a little bit more about that. What inspired you to create the Fill Your Cup Conference? Like, was there a specific moment or just a season in your life where you thought there was a need to bring these women together? So share a little bit about that.

Amber Zaricor (03:17.006)
Yeah, so I was hosting my wine night in my living room and that was where I was meeting a bunch of women all over town and I was going to all these different coffee meetings and I love meeting new people. I'm such a connector at heart. And so I was like traveling all over town, trying to make all these meetings, meeting these incredible women, but I was like, wait a second, you need to meet her and she needs to meet this person over here. And so I was like, what if...

Jill O'Boyle (03:31.269)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (03:46.71)
you guys all came to me in my living room and we just opened a bottle of wine and had a snack. And I come from like a background of the church. And so I was like, okay, I am used to small groups, but like this, don't have to come every week. You can kind of come as you are, come when you can. And it was just a beautiful way of like sharing each other's dreams, getting to know each other.

Jill O'Boyle (03:50.203)
Mmm.

Jill O'Boyle (04:01.564)
Yeah.

Amber Zaricor (04:13.378)
We got really good at introducing ourselves to a group of strangers. And when you don't know what to share about yourself when you're meeting someone new, was like, this was great practice of like sharing just enough to create interest, just, but not too much that you're oversharing. So it was a really great dynamic. And I remember specifically in that season, all the women in the room were like go-getters. either had corporate jobs with side hustles, or they were like,

building a business or they just acquired a business or had bought into a franchise. These were high achieving women sitting in my living room, go-getters, and we were all feeling tired and burnt out. And I was like, wait a second, I'm in this season. And so it just shifted the whole conversation. And I remember we had these conversations week after week after week after week of like,

Jill O'Boyle (04:48.911)
Hmm. Yeah. Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (04:59.481)
Mm-hmm. Right.

Amber Zaricor (05:08.652)
I'm hitting these goals but I'm still not feeling fulfilled or I'm doing X, Y, and Z and I'm working out and I'm eating healthy and I'm doing the things and I'm building relationships and chasing my dreams. But like who am I? And so there was all these like really big questions floating around and I was in a season where I was building my business, Copperheart Creative, and it was just like this.

Jill O'Boyle (05:24.794)
Am I? Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (05:33.244)
Yeah.

Amber Zaricor (05:36.876)
big, it was right in the peak of girl boss season. Like remember that like, I am very busy. Yes, all the like, was girl boss on everything. And it was like, right, it was like the perfect storm. And I'm a firm believer that like, God has us in the storms. And like in that timing for very specific reason. And I was in that season of girl boss and I am very busy. I'm putting like air quotes around this if you're listening. Where that was a badge of honor.

Jill O'Boyle (05:40.837)
Yes, girl boss signs and-

Amber Zaricor (06:07.68)
And my body started screaming. Like I was having panic attacks. I couldn't sleep. I was gaining weight. I was having migraines. I was like, what is happening? And I'm like, I'm burnt out. I have absolutely nothing in my cup and I'm still trudging and trying to get traction and I'm not resting. I feel like I haven't deserved to rest yet. And so there was all these like,

Jill O'Boyle (06:11.943)
you

Jill O'Boyle (06:23.239)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (06:27.047)
Still going.

Amber Zaricor (06:35.0)
things happening in my sphere that were all aligning. And then these conversations kept happening every week at my wine night. And I was like, wait a second, if you're going through this and you're going through this and I'm going through this, this is a bigger conversation. And so on top of like everything, was like, what fuels me as people. And so to come out of my burnout, I was like, I had to do the work.

Jill O'Boyle (06:47.185)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (06:51.569)
That's right.

Amber Zaricor (07:04.876)
And then I was able to turn around and I was like, now let's teach others how to do this work. And it was bringing in experts, going to therapy, actually telling myself I deserve rest. And I remember sitting down with one of my Copperheart creative clients and she was saying a similar thing. And of course, like right time, everything, she owns a wedding venue in Owensboro, Kentucky. And I was like, what?

Jill O'Boyle (07:09.541)
Yes,

Amber Zaricor (07:34.478)
if we did this living room thing at a bigger scale and we hosted an event that talked about this like burnout and the biggest thing was like you've got to fill your cup like as women we are pouring into everything everyone we meet which is such a gift we're like nurturers at heart but we gotta pour into our cups come on

Jill O'Boyle (07:56.497)
We are, yes.

Yes, yes. so good. And thank you for just being obedient to those like subtle nudges during those conversations, because sometimes I think we can, we can just stay right there in that comfort zone, like, it's cozy in my home, and the wine is good. And I've gotten comfortable with these people, but you are obedient to say, there's more here. And I need to expand this and share it with

ever, you know, so many more women who can not just fit in my living room, but in a big conference room and how he just, you know, God always aligns the right people to to line up that that convention and that venue. That is awesome. I can relate to that in so many ways as a high achiever, as a mom, now entrepreneur, but I can relate to being in corporate. And I want to go back to something that you said.

You said, I was doing all the things. I was doing all the things, but yet I was like burning out tremendously. My cup was completely empty. So in that moment, if you can think back to when you were in that moment and you kind of started to have this aha moment that, I'm deep in burnout.

from that point to like kind of like maybe where you are now or maybe there was a pivotal moment. Can you think to in your, I talk a lot about mindset shifts, but was there a moment where you just shifted in how you now define success and then maybe also in your understanding of like what does self care kind of mean? Can you talk a little bit about that?

Amber Zaricor (09:45.74)
Yeah, I think the shift to answer your first question was like, why am I doing all of this?

Jill O'Boyle (09:52.229)
Yes, right? Hold on, hold the phone here.

Amber Zaricor (09:56.91)
mean, yeah, pause. Like, you know, let's hear like, you know, breaks screeching. And it's like glass shattering and just, it's like, what's the point? Like you almost have to get to this like very, like, and it's whether you're thinking positively or like I was in such burnout that I was like, what am I doing? Why am I doing this to myself?

Jill O'Boyle (10:12.773)
Yeah, what's the end goal here?

Jill O'Boyle (10:23.216)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (10:26.132)
what's the point? And I'm very deeply charged by my why. And like I said, like my why is like serving others, loving others, like helping other women feel safe, seen and connected and heard. Like that's my why. And so I was like, okay, I see why I'm doing this, but like, does it need to be at this scale? Do I need to be working at all hours of the day? Like, do I even have any boundaries? What am I doing? And

Jill O'Boyle (10:42.545)
Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (10:53.948)
Right.

Amber Zaricor (10:55.438)
Instead of saying like scratching the whole thing, which is what a lot of us do in burnout. We just say like burn the house down, get out of Dodge, create a new career, like go live on an island for a month. It's like, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah. It's like, it's in us. It's as like high achieving go getters. We're fueled by a little bit of chaos and like, that's fine. But like, do we need that all the time? Our nervous system is freaking out. So.

Jill O'Boyle (11:07.608)
It won't change, right?

Amber Zaricor (11:26.226)
I started to say, like, where am I overextending myself and in what capacity am I starting to feel like my heart starts to feel resentment and then it starts to feel like people, like I need the people please. And then I feel like I should do something. And I always joke, I'm like, don't should on yourself. And so like, that's where like all of these things start to play in. And when I just had to start being

Jill O'Boyle (11:40.679)
you

Jill O'Boyle (11:47.099)
Yes.

Amber Zaricor (11:53.614)
quiet and listening to those cues and then stepping back like if a client called me after five o'clock, I would be so mad. Why is this person calling me? Why do they think they can call me right now? I was like, wait a second. That's a boundary that they don't know that I have that I've never communicated. And then I just kept and it was little things like that of like, hey, can I get this tomorrow?

Jill O'Boyle (12:00.168)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (12:14.168)
Ooh. Mm.

Jill O'Boyle (12:20.423)
Yes.

Amber Zaricor (12:22.176)
It's like that made me frustrated and then it turned into resentment and it just kept growing. Like all these things, almost like compound interest, but in the negative way and then crash, burnout. And I'm like, cause I have no boundaries in place, no systems in place. I'm not listening to these voices, my intuition, like everything that's screaming even on my body is like.

Jill O'Boyle (12:31.012)
Exactly.

Jill O'Boyle (12:39.333)
Right? Yes.

Amber Zaricor (12:49.346)
I'm just putting my head down and I'm just grinding. And so a lot of that like mindset shift was just listening and just like stopping for a minute.

Jill O'Boyle (12:53.041)
Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (12:57.063)
Mmm.

Yes! my-

so good, I know. When you are full blown in that burnout mode, you are exactly right. Everything escalates, everything. I remember feeling that as well, where everything that seemed probably really small just felt very big all the time and very annoying and boundaries. That was good aha moment, right? Boundaries are one thing, but if we're not communicating those boundaries to people,

their boundaries are always going to keep getting crossed. So I love that shift of really asking yourself, what is going on here? Right? What do I need to do? So can you talk about something in that moment? You talked about pausing, like the screeching halt. How, because, know, high achievers, I believe that they crave that, but they don't know how to actually pause and slow down. So was there something for you in that

chaos where it's like, okay, the chaos, I can handle it a little bit, but this is a lot of chaos. How can I possibly just pause for a moment? Was there a practice that you kind of implemented or just started to do that helped you to kind of break free from that, even if it was the slightest bit?

Amber Zaricor (14:22.104)
That's a great question. I think I started making, like looking back, my paws looked a little different. I wasn't a mom yet. So that's a whole nother conversation. So like I had more time, like let's just be real, I had more time to do all the things. Like if I wanted to go for a walk in like journal or like.

Jill O'Boyle (14:34.561)
Mm-hmm. Time, right? Yep, right. Right.

Amber Zaricor (14:46.498)
go to a coffee shop, I would just go. And I was like, I don't know what that life is anymore. So like this looked very different than it does now, but like it was a lot of making more space to be outside. Even it was cold, I would go for a walk. I feel very much so like the noise of the outside, like social media and shoulds and all of the expectations of the world start to get quieter when you're in nature. And so I would just make.

Jill O'Boyle (14:48.656)
Go, yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (15:01.659)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (15:15.249)
Yes.

Amber Zaricor (15:16.584)
space for myself to be outside, go for walks, even just sitting outside on my back patio with a huge blanket and coat and just journaling and just like writing down what I was grateful for, my fears, my prayers, my dreams, what was making me nervous, what was making me feel anxious. Like I just...

Jill O'Boyle (15:34.481)
Yeah.

Amber Zaricor (15:40.716)
It was a big practice of like, was white-knuckling everything in my life and I just had to open my hands. And so it was like big plans, open hands. And I just tried to put that into practice through just small micro moments throughout my day. So anytime I would start to feel anxious about something, like tense up, you clench your knuckles, your shoulders are in your ears. And I would just like actively relax my body and open my hands.

Jill O'Boyle (15:44.699)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (15:58.354)
So good.

Jill O'Boyle (16:02.107)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (16:09.957)
Yes, love that.

Amber Zaricor (16:10.678)
And it's so refreshing to like remember that God's in control and we're not like as much as we try to like force things. And so that was like removing a lot of the pressure that I was even putting on myself. Like the expectations that we have on ourselves are sometimes way more than what others even put on us. And so being outside for sure, quieting that

Jill O'Boyle (16:14.448)
Mm-hmm

Right, right.

Jill O'Boyle (16:27.067)
right?

Jill O'Boyle (16:33.797)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (16:37.839)
I agree.

Amber Zaricor (16:39.286)
that noise and then also just like really actively practicing like opening my hands like anytime I felt like I had control or was stressed I was like and just took a breath.

Jill O'Boyle (16:45.296)
Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (16:52.55)
Mm-hmm. Yeah. Breathing, right? Just breathing. mean, I think sometimes when I get so worked up, it's like all of a sudden I'm like, I have to remind myself, like Jill, just breathe. Like just breathe for a minute. Like seriously. But I agree with you. I am a huge outdoor person. And when you're in Indiana, oh my gosh, like when the sun is out, you gotta take those moments and go out for a walk. But even when it's not, right? You're outside with a cold, like a blanket around yourself. But I do believe there's something about...

like earthing yourself like to the ground of nature and like just getting outside. But I also I'm a huge advocate of journaling and writing. So I love that you mentioned that, too. That's I believe one of the biggest things. And I love what you said. Like sometimes our mind gets so consumed with just everything that the world throws at us. And I love how you were just saying like it's almost like a brain dump. Like just grab a piece of paper and like everything that is on your mind right now that is just either

Even if it's not causing you to be anxious, like there's just so much like I have two kids, right? Baseball practices. What do we have tonight? We have ones at this field, ones at another. Like what do I have for work? What is causing me to be anxious right now? Like just brain dump it all down, like just write it all down. I think there's something about getting it on paper that kind of like is like that release and let go. Like it's not done yet, but you've released it out of your mind to now say, okay, big picture here. What do I really need to be worried about? What do need to focus on right now? So

Amber Zaricor (18:19.298)
Yes. Then you can pull the top three out of there. Like, it's like, I even try to not put them in a list. I just like write them all over the page. Like, it's just so it looks frantic. And what's funny is my husband actually taught me to do this. I remember once I was so in that season, I was so anxious about like everything. And just

Jill O'Boyle (18:20.837)
That is so good. Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (18:30.544)
Yep.

Jill O'Boyle (18:39.985)
Yeah.

Amber Zaricor (18:43.872)
all the things that were swirling. was like, again, this was before I even had kids. So I'm like, this is just hilarious to think, like looking back, like, man, that page would be so much bigger now. But the, remember him grabbing a piece of paper and was like, all right, what's on your mind? Just like list it off. Like, and I don't think he was prepared. Yeah, I went from like dentist appointments to like taxes to like, we got to eat that salmon in the fridge. It's about to go bad. Like,

The dog needs a new pit like medication. I'm like, I don't think you wanted a glimpse into this, but you got it. But like to be able to do that alone and to like.

Jill O'Boyle (19:15.887)
There is your wife's brain right now.

Amber Zaricor (19:28.608)
at the end of the day to see it on the paper and be like, I give it to you, God, like what needs done on this? Cause this is my agenda. Like this is what's in my brain. Like show me what you want me to do. And I think that's a huge piece that we kind of forget sometimes too.

Jill O'Boyle (19:38.149)
Yeah. Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (19:45.33)
That's so good. That's so good. I love that. So I want to go back to your wine night, because I like wine and I like gathering women together. So I'm really curious about this because I'm like, maybe I need to be doing this. So you talked about hosting these wine nights in your house. What do you think when you you realize in that moment you realize burnout was amongst all of these? But what do you think these women were really like craving either in that moment or honestly, what do you think women are craving?

like today and like how do you think those gatherings in your home are kind of meeting that need?

Amber Zaricor (20:25.122)
Yeah. Connection. We're all craving connection and not the kind that's like, I see you at the playground once a month or we can grab dinner like once a quarter or, hey, we should get together soon. It's like, yeah, we should. We're not craving that kind of connection. We're craving like in the trenches together, feeling safe and seen and that we can share.

Jill O'Boyle (20:27.663)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (20:50.225)
Yes.

Amber Zaricor (20:55.926)
our fears, excitements and like in a...

in a community where those can be celebrated and supported and held together to know that we're not alone. I think from the wine nights, we always did how I mentioned like the wine night introductions. So we would go around and we would introduce ourselves. We'd say a little bit about our story. And then we'd always end on like our big scary dream.

And some of these dreams they changed every week or some of them were very consistent. But our question as women that were holding space for that person that was sharing was like, after they shared their big scary dream, our ask would be like, how can we support you? What do you need right now? like, and it's that practice as women of like being able to freaking ask for what we need.

Jill O'Boyle (21:49.447)
Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (21:56.742)
We mean, right?

Amber Zaricor (21:58.766)
It's like, and knowing that you're not a burden, like, and you're not putting anybody out, people are delighted to help you. And so that was a huge practice. So like to feel connected and supported is a huge in herd. like, specifically on social media, we're feeling disconnected more than ever. We're not feeling heard because there's so much noise and we never know if we're going to be canceled.

Jill O'Boyle (22:10.011)
Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (22:15.175)
Mmm.

Jill O'Boyle (22:25.873)
So much chatter.

Amber Zaricor (22:28.67)
or if we're gonna say the wrong thing, or if our opinion even matters because there's so many opinions out there. And to feel supported. It's like to know that someone's genuinely showing up for you in your dreams and they care about you. Even if that's a quick connect to somebody via email after the fact or sharing a resource that they found. Like as women, we're not supposed to live like this so isolated.

Jill O'Boyle (22:56.839)
Yes.

Amber Zaricor (22:59.032)
We're built for villages and we're built for connection and to go and do life together. And I think we just want to get back in the rooms together and have that support system that we're built to have.

Jill O'Boyle (23:06.436)
Exactly.

Jill O'Boyle (23:14.555)
Hmm. I could not agree more. I freaking love that you said that because I I feel that right like I was craving that like and I still crave that like we just we I hosted a made-for-more Bible study at the beginning of this year. I'm hosting it again. Actually, we start this week And this was the theme. This was the theme throughout the whole Bible study that kept coming up with these women

and you are spot on. And the most thing that we were talking about in those weekly meetings was like, are all socially connected, but we are so not connected. And we're craving that. We're craving to go deep with somebody that can say, I'm right there with you and answer that exact question. And how can I walk alongside of you? Or I've been there, let me walk alongside of you. And I think, when you think back to just God and Jesus,

That is what Jesus wants us to do. He wants us to go out and build relationships. I'm just, maybe it's 42 now and I'm just over the BS. I'm just like, I'm done with superficial anymore. I wanna go deep. I don't wanna talk about the weather. I'll talk about your kids all day long, but let me tell you, how are you really doing? Let's talk about that and let's really talk about it, because I'm sure I'm right there with you. So yeah.

Amber Zaricor (24:39.18)
Yeah, everyone that knows me is like, Amber doesn't small talk. It's like, go deeper, get out. Like I'm like, I don't have capacity for this. I don't have capacity for these surface level relationships anymore. We don't want that. and there's still, there's some women that will let you in. And there's some women that I'm still like building friendships with that I'm like, I'm chipping away at that wall. Like I know, because we have a lot of like friend hurt or girl pain of like,

Jill O'Boyle (24:44.369)
Am right? Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (24:50.727)
Mm-hmm.

bright.

Amber Zaricor (25:09.006)
we've been crossed in the past or we've had that friend break up or we've had someone betray us that feels like, and so there's people that will never let you in and I'm like, I've tried my darndest and I'm like, I have loved you so hard as much as I possibly can and ask how I can get to know you better. And if that's just, if the walls are still not coming down, I'm like.

Jill O'Boyle (25:22.34)
Mm-hmm, right.

Amber Zaricor (25:37.632)
It's a two-way street. Like you really, you have to like give and take, give and take. that's where Wine Night 2, I think, was that level playing ground of like, you have to ask what you need, but you also have to be able to receive and then turn around and flip-flop. Like it's this give and take and it's not transactional. It has to be relational. So it's like this very unique dynamic of like connection that we're craving.

Jill O'Boyle (25:38.949)
Right, it is.

Jill O'Boyle (25:52.443)
Hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (25:57.5)
Right?

Jill O'Boyle (26:02.993)
Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (26:07.195)
Yes. Yeah.

Amber Zaricor (26:08.204)
And it's hard to build, it's hard to facilitate, but it's like, so worth it once you have it.

Jill O'Boyle (26:13.393)
For sure. I'm thinking like, always be willing to pour into others, but also make sure that they're pouring into you. And I think what you're talking about there is like, I'm not saying to give up on somebody, but I also like, don't like, make sure you're focusing on those right relationships, right? And like find those relationships that you are giving and taking in, and then don't like be intentional about making time to like not put that on the burner. Like it's so hard when you're busy with,

life and parenting to be like, gosh, that's a great friendship, but I am just too busy right now. Like I, I have to remind myself of that, like make time for those deep relationships because it's so life giving when you actually do. So, well, I know you're fill your cup conference. I haven't attended, but I will be, I'm excited, to return it to my hometown.

But so I know we talked a little bit about your conference. So I want to share that with the audience that the upcoming theme is Bloom, Grow and Overflow. Love that topic. So I want to talk a little bit before we go about that theme. What does that theme mean to you? How have you experienced that rhythm like in your own life lately?

Amber Zaricor (27:32.696)
Yeah, I feel like specifically I'm coming out of winter, we all are. And so just like wintering and yeah, seriously, I'm like my skin needs the sun, like please. But just to be able to come out of like these different rhythms and seasons, but spring specifically, it's like, there's so much goodness, again, getting back into that like nature, all the theme of like.

Jill O'Boyle (27:37.972)
Mm hmm. Hallelujah. Let's get out of it.

Jill O'Boyle (27:59.58)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (28:01.004)
bloom where you're planted, water your own grass. Like we all bloom at different times. You were made to bloom. Like it's just so, there's so much goodness and richness in the theme of looking at nature and God's creation and being able to pour that into a topic that weaves throughout the day. Usually, Fill Your Cup is full of confetti and all of the bright colors. And so it just naturally fit in with nature's confetti.

to be able to tie this in this year and we have some fun activities planned. again, like we do one night connections at the conference. so making sure that like every single year that we do the conference, we always have feedback from our attendees while it's fresh at the end of the event. And every single year women want to more time to connect.

Jill O'Boyle (28:40.744)
fun.

Jill O'Boyle (28:48.135)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (28:58.304)
And so we have less and less speakers every year because we're listening and we're reading those feedbacks. And after hosting YNITE for so many years, I'm like, I know why. Like having those conversations around the table versus someone feeling like they're talking at you to be able to talk with people is huge. So we're really making sure that we tie that into the theme this year.

Jill O'Boyle (29:10.748)
Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (29:21.19)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (29:26.382)
We'll have a bouquet bar. have our special headshots with our confetti toss that are always like the fan favorite. And just so many, like we have a... Oh yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (29:38.12)
Yep. And the pictures look so cute online too. Like the pictures look like you can just see the joy in the room. Like, I mean, it's awesome. It's awesome.

Amber Zaricor (29:49.996)
Yeah, it's definitely like everyone's new favorite profile picture after they come to the... But yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (29:54.566)
yeah, I'm sure, right? What girl does not like confetti and glamour and all the things, right?

Amber Zaricor (30:02.048)
Yeah, and some women have never had a professional headshot before. And so it's like, to be able to have a celebratory headshot, like we've had people launch books and they use that photo, or they launch their new business and they use that photo. Like, it's just so fun to see everyone just embrace the true like, spirit of Fill Your Cup.

Jill O'Boyle (30:07.643)
yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (30:19.771)
yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (30:24.279)
Yeah, yes. Well, that leads perfectly into my next question. So fill your cup. What does that personally mean to you? You're a busy mom, entrepreneur, you host this event, wine nights. So in your day to day, especially with juggling, all of that, motherhood, marriage, entrepreneurship, what does fill your cup personally mean to you?

Amber Zaricor (30:54.614)
It means taking care of me so I can take care of everything else in my life and making sure that I'm full or at least like have something in my cup so that I could be the mom that I want to be, the wife I want to be, the friend I want to be, the business owner I want to be, the neighbor that I want to be. But just all of the different ways that I'm showing up in my life, if I'm not taking care of myself, I'm not taking care of anything.

Jill O'Boyle (31:00.246)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (31:06.076)
Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (31:22.467)
Mm-hmm. Yes, so good.

Amber Zaricor (31:24.302)
And I think like a big piece of that was coming down to making sure that I'm pouring into myself. So P-O-U-R, pause, P-O, open up, U, unplug, and R, reflect. P-O-U-R. And so I try to make sure not all of those happen every single day, but I make sure that at least I'm doing

Jill O'Boyle (31:43.047)
Eww.

I love that.

Amber Zaricor (31:53.342)
one or two of those a day and keeping myself sane.

Jill O'Boyle (31:58.086)
my gosh, I'm going to write that on my wall because that is so good. Pour, meaning pause, open up, unplug and reflect. I love that. I love that. my gosh. So, so good. And it is a good, just subtle reminder. Like have I paused today? Like what do need to open up about? Or I mean the reflection piece too, like reflecting on the day, what, know, giving ourselves gratitude, like.

As you were just talking about that, pouring into myself, like, so I can pour into others. Like, why do we not do that as women? we, like, as we were opening up, we were talking about, are women tend to be nurturers and caretakers. And we put so many people first, but you are so right. Like if we are not pouring into ourselves, we can, we cannot give, give to others. So.

I love this acronym. This could be a good reminder. Is there anything else that you would provide to the listeners as if somebody's here listening today and they are in deep burnout or they feel the stress of just life and the loud chatter and the noise and everybody else that wants us to stop and compare that we are not enough or doing enough. Any advice that you would give to that listener listening today?

Amber Zaricor (33:28.28)
I would say first off, sister, I've been there and I might not be walking what you're walking through right now, but you're not alone. And I just pray that you have the support to walk with you and that you ask for what you need and that you pause and take a deep breath and know that you're not alone.

Jill O'Boyle (33:53.328)
Right.

Amber Zaricor (33:54.796)
and that you see and realize how far you've come. Like that these struggles might have been what you've prayed for for so long and now you have them and it feels like a lot. Or you've never imagined you'd be here and God has you here for a very specific reason. And I just pray that you would not bloom where you're planted like that. It's very, but really to make sure that you are

Jill O'Boyle (33:58.428)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (34:23.374)
pouring into your cup and taking care of yourself in the season, no matter whether you are overflowing right now with blessings or you feel like you have an empty cup or a hole in the bottom of your cup, that you would truly know that you are loved and that your cup matters and that self-care is not selfish and that you can't take care of anyone unless you take care of yourself.

Jill O'Boyle (34:30.791)
Mm-hmm.

Jill O'Boyle (34:44.071)
Absolutely.

Jill O'Boyle (34:49.191)
Mm So good. So good. Yes. And I mean, just like what you said earlier, when you opened up, like these storms in our lives are going to come. Right. And you were like, there was this storm that I was in of this just like burnout mentality. But yet you were placed there for a reason and you leaned into that and then you push forward. And so there was something I just saw and shared on my social media and I'm going to butcher it. But it was like

I think it was from Toby Mack and he just said that like the storms that you're in right now are purposeful and they're going to feel super heavy right now. And it's going to feel like you can't go up that mountain, but you're going to come out on the other side and you're going to look back and that mountain is going to be so far in the distance. And you're going to be like, wow, look how far I come. I had to climb that mountain. So I can be where I am today. And so I think that's just a beautiful reminder to add on to what you just said. Like, bloom where you're planted because God is doing something that you can't.

quite see in the distance yet, but just have faith that he's doing it. He's doing it. So.

Amber Zaricor (35:53.804)
yeah. And if you're not in a storm, you've either probably just come out of a storm or you're going into one. Like, let's be honest, like, that's just life. And that's why too, like every year at Fill Your Cup, I learned something new. Like the speakers that I'm bringing in are experts that I have been leaning on for wisdom.

Jill O'Boyle (36:00.612)
Right, right. That's life. Yes, it is right.

Jill O'Boyle (36:11.623)
Hmm.

Amber Zaricor (36:20.908)
throughout the year because we're all changing and every single year when women come back almost every single year and every year they come in as a new person because they've had different experiences, different storms they've walked through and they're learning different things and they're bringing in different tools and they're taking home different tools to now tackle the storms of this next year. So it's like an ongoing process.

Jill O'Boyle (36:28.986)
awesome.

Jill O'Boyle (36:46.075)
Right.

Yes.

Amber Zaricor (36:49.036)
that were constantly refining and changing and evolving and blooming and then like wintering and then coming and blooming again. It's, this is the human experience and it's messy and it's beautiful.

Jill O'Boyle (36:57.796)
Yeah.

Yeah. It is, it is beautiful. mean, you're right. Life is a journey, right? We're never gonna, I believe we don't ever arrive, right? We're always on this journey. We're gonna have ups and downs, it is such a beautiful life if you really appreciate all the ups and downs and how you're blooming and growing through it all. So, so good. So let's talk about this conference. Where can,

It's coming up when, remind me the date, May 9th, right? Okay.

Amber Zaricor (37:33.976)
Friday, May 9th. It's the Friday of Mother's Day weekend. So we're going to take care of them mamas and everybody else.

Jill O'Boyle (37:41.512)
would even put two and two. I did not even look that it was Mother's Day weekend, so that's so cool that I invited my mom. that's awesome. So there we go. Okay, so Friday, May 9th in Salina, Ohio. Cute, lovely town. You should all come and experience just the awesomeness of Grand Lake St. Mary's in Salina, Ohio. All right, so where can they learn more about you, Amber?

Amber Zaricor (37:50.561)
So special.

Amber Zaricor (37:58.776)
Yep.

Jill O'Boyle (38:10.435)
look into the info of because there's still not a lot of tickets left, but there are still some right filling up quickly.

Amber Zaricor (38:18.478)
Yep, there's a handful of tickets left on our website, fillyourcupconference.com. And you can learn more about it there. You can watch a video and see kind of the energy of the room and see all those headshots we were talking about with the confetti. It'll be May 9th from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. And from Indianapolis, it's, what is it, like an hour and a half drive? Hour? Okay, yeah, yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (38:43.879)
It's a little bit farther, like two hours, basically two hours, yeah, two hours and 15 minutes, well actually that's to my parents' so yeah. It's about an hour 45 to two. Yeah. That's right.

Amber Zaricor (38:50.826)
counting. Yeah, that's a podcast, two podcasts. But yeah, it's, it's gonna be a fabulous day. We have a workshop planned, a panel of all Ohioans, which will be fun. We try to find local speakers. And so yeah, it'll be a fabulous day. We cater lunch.

Jill O'Boyle (39:07.675)
That's fun.

Jill O'Boyle (39:12.775)
have it.

Amber Zaricor (39:16.142)
You can build your own bouquet and we have vendors there. We'll be making our own like screen print shirts. I don't know if you can see this shirt, like we'll be, we have our made apparel comes and we help screen print and you can pull your own t-shirt this year. And all those like why night questions and all of these table conversations that are going to happen are just like the yummy goodness of

Jill O'Boyle (39:25.041)
Yeah.

Jill O'Boyle (39:33.248)
that's cool.

Jill O'Boyle (39:41.84)
Mm-hmm.

Amber Zaricor (39:44.694)
the entire event, that's our secret sauce. And every year people are like, why are there tissues on the table? And then we get to why night introductions and they're like, I understand why there's tissues on the table.

Jill O'Boyle (39:47.324)
I love it.

Jill O'Boyle (39:54.939)
Ha

Jill O'Boyle (39:59.034)
Yep, I know I have those at my retreat too and I don't want to scare people but I'm like, it's a good thing. It's a good thing that they're there. We need to get this out. We need to get it out. Okay, I hope this is okay. I hope this is okay to ask because I just know that there's sometimes people like this where, okay, say somebody's listening and they are here in Indy or they're like, Slime Ohio, that's not far from me. But they're going to try to come by themselves and they're gonna walk into an event where they know.

Amber Zaricor (40:01.166)
Yeah. Yeah. yeah. Yes.

Jill O'Boyle (40:28.225)
Nobody, but they know us now because they've listened to this podcast. How do you go about placing them? Is it okay to share that? Or could you put them at my table? I don't know. Tell me how you work that out.

Amber Zaricor (40:40.504)
Yes. this is my favorite question. Because my personal mission, which I'm like this, I feel like this is why God has me in this, in this host mentality is because my personal mission is to make sure that every woman that walks in the door feels safe, seen, connected and heard. So I have an army of volunteers and I have a lot of people that ask to volunteer every year.

Jill O'Boyle (41:01.799)
Mm.

Amber Zaricor (41:09.484)
and I am extremely specific on who volunteers because these are the women personally in my life that have come up to me and make me feel safe, seen, connected and heard. And so their job as a whole is not just to like make sure that you get lunch, make sure that you're checked in and get you your t-shirt. Their overall purpose in the day is to drop anything they're doing and if they see someone by themselves to go up to that person.

Like they have full permission to sit lunch aside. Someone else will take care. Like we have a huge team, but if they see that one person standing there, that our job is to go find them. So my encouragement to anyone that's coming alone is to find a volunteer. We all have the same color shirts on. You're like, hi, I don't know anyone here. I was told to come and find you.

Jill O'Boyle (41:44.069)
Love it.

Jill O'Boyle (41:50.727)
Mm.

Amber Zaricor (42:03.672)
hi, I'm Amber, like, and introduce yourself and they will introduce you to, they'll find out where you're from or what you're passionate about or what brought you there today. And they will personally, like, their job is to literally go either seat you or connect you or walk with you until you feel safe. Like, that is their whole job. So, and if you don't find them, you can come and find me and I will personally make sure that you are welcomed.

Jill O'Boyle (42:26.693)
love it.

Jill O'Boyle (42:32.313)
Yes, yes, yes. And I will talk to any stranger too. So come find me, I'll be there. Come talk to me. I love that. And I knew I could ask that and you would have a perfect response because you're just so intentional about everything that you do. And it's always with just a deep passion to serve. And I've only met you, what, a couple months ago and I can see that radiate. So yeah, I was treading lightly asking you that. I'm like, I assume she has an answer for that. And you of course did. So yeah.

Amber Zaricor (42:36.673)
Yeah!

Amber Zaricor (43:01.861)
thank you.

Jill O'Boyle (43:02.799)
Well, thank you. Thank you so much for just being here and just sharing your story and just your heart so openly. love, I love just your energy and your passion and your joy. And so I'm counting down the days. Like we said before we got on, I have not registered yet. I am being a very, very bad, I'm a slacker right now. I'm a slacker, but I'm going to, all right. I want to get off here. So I'm going to be like, I'm like, I'm going to be there. I haven't even registered, but I'm going to be there. So I'm counting down those days.

And I'm just excited. excited that, you I think there's something special too when you go back to your hometown and your roots, right where I grew up. So I was like, a conference in Salina, Ohio. Like this is crazy. And that you're like now in Nashville than that you're having in Salina. So that's so cool. So great.

Amber Zaricor (43:49.484)
yeah. There's a beauty when being able to like build, to give a gift back to the community that built you.

Jill O'Boyle (43:56.621)
Mm-hmm. I love that. So good. So good. Well, thank you so much. I will include your link to the conference and your contact info in the show notes below. So ladies, there's no reason to not show up now, right? Like she has got it covered. You will be connected. You already have two friends right here. So show up and get connected if you resonate, which I know you do, because we're all women and that's what we are.

really, really craving right now is this deep, deep connection. So thank you again. I so appreciate you and go out everybody, make it a great day, be you love life and always keep rising up. Have a good one.